I have 4 grown kids and just got our 9th grandchild...2 more due in May. We have kicked around plans of where they would go if the have to bug out. They all have option of coming to us or to the inlaws. All of us are in the same state. Both very good options for them. 2 safe places in opposite directions. It eases my mind that they have help pretty much anyway they need to go. What I am struggling with is this Mama wants her kids with her...If the kids have to go the inlaw route they will be in the other end of the state (Utah) from us. My daughters seem to have us in mind as their first option and my daughters in law are leaning toward their families (their Mamas). The ultimate goal is for them to be safe and I want them to get either place asap without feeling conflicted. I am struggling hard to deal with the fact some or maybe all of my kids will end up hundreds of miles from me with little to no communication depending on what kind of shtf. Any advice or counsel for this Mom?