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A while back my brother in law determined to save his marriage to a very broken, addicted and messed up wife of 20 years. Well she dumped him for another woman and he is flipping out - literally. I had to take his guns, the police came and took home to a behavior health hospital, and 48 hours later I visited him and he is just unable to cope with his new reality. He has a Narcissistic Break Disorder and he was institutionalized after confessing his plans to murder his ex so she didn't take what he built up for his kids. What really hits home for me is his dumbfounded belief he is not responsible for his thoughts or actions....it's all her fault. He refuses to accept any blame for anything because she left, because she's with a woman, and wants half of their kids property for herself.

It's a tough time for my wife. She's having a hard time with it. It's her oldest and closest sibling whom she relied on hard when their parents passed in the last few years. I want to just shake the man, but they got him locked up big time and orderlies watch every move. OMG don't ever loose it man!
 

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Sorry to hear this Ripon. Best you can do is let your Brother in Law know you are there for him when he's ready, and be there no matter what for your wife.

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Sorry to hear that, my hopes and Prayers are with him and you and your family. Stay strong, but let him know we are all weak at some point. and that you are not ashamed or judgemental of his issue, becouse "America" has this stigma about mental issues, hioding them, and hoping they go away.
 

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A while back my brother in law determined to save his marriage to a very broken, addicted and messed up wife of 20 years. Well she dumped him for another woman and he is flipping out - literally. I had to take his guns, the police came and took home to a behavior health hospital, and 48 hours later I visited him and he is just unable to cope with his new reality. He has a Narcissistic Break Disorder and he was institutionalized after confessing his plans to murder his ex so she didn't take what he built up for his kids. What really hits home for me is his dumbfounded belief he is not responsible for his thoughts or actions....it's all her fault. He refuses to accept any blame for anything because she left, because she's with a woman, and wants half of their kids property for herself.

It's a tough time for my wife. She's having a hard time with it. It's her oldest and closest sibling whom she relied on hard when their parents passed in the last few years. I want to just shake the man, but they got him locked up big time and orderlies watch every move. OMG don't ever loose it man!
Sorry you guys have to deal with this, it's a terrible thing. One of the symptoms of narcissism is refusing to take responsibility for your actions and blaming others for them. This is common in sociopaths also since most sociopaths are also narcissists. The best thing right now is just to support him however you can, hopefully they'll be able to help him. Being locked up may be the best thing for him at this point if he went so far as to plan his ex wife's murder, it may keep him from actually doing something that might make his situation worse. Good luck with this, I hope it all turns out ok.

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So sorry to hear of this,prayers to you and your family,ditto for what the the other ops say......you sound like a good person and that you have your bro-in laws 6 in mind and thats what really counts....hope he feels better soon.
 

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..a very broken, addicted and messed up wife of 20 years...she dumped him for another woman...he was institutionalized after confessing his plans to murder his ex so she didn't take what he built up for his kids.....she's with a woman, and wants half of their kids property for herself...
She sounds a right bee-yatch so maybe somebody could visit him and tell him that to make him feel better, and let him know they're on his side.
 

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We've been telling him to dump her a couple of years now. I went over Bug Out Plans with him once. Gave him directions to a place where iplan to pick up friendlies once a week and told him (. 2 years ago) we can't take her in. She offers nothing to the community, sorry. No skills, abilities, nothing. He'd be so much better without her, but sadly this revealed a serious problem for him he needs to get a grip on. I drove him home today. It was sad, really, true to his diagnosis he blames his family for making him get help, her of course and his elder kids for "turning" on him. Tough times ahead.
 

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Man, I have no words, I know this has to be some of the hardest decisions...I wish all of you and everyone involved well.
 

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I'd never heard of 'Narcissistic Break Disorder' and am still not sure what it is, maybe we Brits call it by a different name such as 'Right Man (or Woman) Syndrome' where the person goes through life thinking they're ALWAYS in the right and that everybody else is wrong or plotting against them.
My evil little shit of a dad had it, and my bee-yatch sister has got it too.

From the net- "The "Right Men" are domestic household tyrants who terrorise their families but they can be found in all fields of life: in business, politics, art, culture.
They are poor communicators, appalling listeners, tend to see everything in "black and white" and demonstrate a profound inflexibility.
As a result, they tend to be hopelessly out of date with the current times in terms of fashion, relationships, social and cultural trends.
They also often carry an erroneously fixed and out-of-date view about whom a person is and there is nothing that person (whether it be their son/daughter, neighbour, colleague) can do to convince them otherwise.
The "Right Man" thinks he's right because he carries "secret knowledge".
The "Right Man" tends to believe that he knows people better than they know themselves.
Their catch-phrase is: "There is nothing wrong with me; it is everyone else that is at fault."
The "Right Man" must always have his way and is afraid of losing face above all ("How dare you talk to me this way?"): anything that might be an indication of his/her infallibility or erroneous ways is something that he can never admit.
And if things don't exactly go his way, he may try to scare people into submission by breaking into outbursts of rage.."
Anger, Aggression, Temper: NLP, Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy
 

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"break" was not the appropriate term in there, sorry. He was having a "break" from reality which is a narcassist disorder problem.

It's really tough. He gets his mind made up and no one can be right but him, no matter what reality is, only he can be right. Very sad.
 

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"break" was not the appropriate term in there, sorry. He was having a "break" from reality which is a narcassist disorder problem.
It's really tough. He gets his mind made up and no one can be right but him, no matter what reality is, only he can be right. Very sad.
Yeah they're everywhere, even in various net discussion forums, we had one in Preppers Net earlier this year and we whupped his ass in debates, posting links and stuff to prove we were right but even then he couldn't admit he was wrong. He eventually flipped and began ranting at members like a schoolyard brat, for example he called me a "delusional Limey!" and the mods banned him because we were getting fed up with him.
Imagine having his sort in a SHTF survival group, no way hozay..:)
 

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It's probably Narcisstic Personality Disorder, with a Psychotic Break. Like I said, there is no for sure 'lab test' for psychiatric diagnosis. Whatever it's called, he 'lost' it. I have seen a few cases where the woman leaves her husband for another woman, and that seems to bother the guy more than if she left him for another guy. I know 3 men that this happened to, and they were all very angry men their entire lives....didn't want to date women again etc.
 
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