I think I get what the OP is saying. If it looks like you're ready for a fight, that means that you could have something worth protecting. By looking neutral, then hopefully people might think that you're struggling like the rest of them. Defense is hard, because if you show that you're willing to fight to the death, then they will bring their best. Or they could be dipshts and bring their best anyway. Just gotta play it by ear I guess.