Well it isn't cut and dry, the system is designed to help people like you and your friend. You and your friend decided to have kids when things were good and you both had stable incomes. Things went bad, which they always do, and you needed a lifeline. That is more than acceptable. What isn't acceptable is those whores who have 3 different kids with 3 different men. Maybe if you are working at the McDonalds and making $9 an hour you shouldn't be having kids left and right. Even worse is those people who have kids and see them as just another check they can collect. Also lets not leave these scum bag men who go around making "baby mommas" and don't even stick around to raise them or support them. That is 90% of the problem these days, you got kids with no fathers raised by single mothers who have to work 2-3 jobs just to support them. They can't spend the time to properly raise a child, so these kids grow up with no direction, role models or discipline and they latch on to the only role models they can find which happen to be older "men" who were raised in a similar environment and turned into criminals.Because it isn't always that cut and dried. Every woman who bears children is not a whore. My kids all have the same dad and I was married to him for years before we had our first. What if, a few years down the line, fed up with the stress of unemployment that he'd been through, he decided to start beating me, or, even worse, my kids? How would I have foreseen that? It happens all the time. My friend had no idea her husband would be abusive until many years later. She held on until it seemed she would survive only if she left. She should have kept her legs crossed? How is that her fault? Would you look her in the eye and tell her tough luck? Stay and be beaten until you die in order to keep your kids fed, because you don't deserve help.
That is my point.