[OrganikRoots]

Insomnia has me tossing this out.
Wondering on any thoughts.

Recently while attending a business venture, I ran into an old friend that I had not seen for over thirty years. Way back then we were good long time friends that had lots in common and did a lot of things together.
Once I moved out of state we stayed in touch for a while, and even visited each other once or twice.
Then thirty some years roll by with no communication from either side.
We were on good terms, just drifted I suppose.
In short, I forgot about this person.

When we met at this business thingy, we seemed to be on the same vibe as decades past.
We caught up on some topics and planned on meeting once more the next day before I left.
The next day some of the conversation was regarding keeping in touch and to refresh the friendship.
It felt comfortable to me and I thought it would be good to have an old friend back in the fold.

Now...
I'm thinking why?
Why would I want to?
The idea seems kinda unappealing to me now.
Not sure I want to communicate back at all.

Thoughts ???

 

[One Shot]

I'm thinking why?
Why would I want to?
The idea seems kinda unappealing to me now.
Not sure I want to communicate back at all.

If you have those questions then I wouldn't do it.

 

[Spenser]

SO what has changed in the short time? you were Bff 30 years ago, u reconnected recently and seem to hit it off, and now some sort of fear is kicking in.

What is this source of fear that you have?

now mind you, friends do indeed have an expiration date. Back in High School I had this Indian friend. We saw one another about a decade ago during one of those High School reunions. He is now a Cardiologist, is less well off then I am, and still acts like a teen geek, the stupid childish pranks, he drives like a NJ taxi driving punk, he is immature, fact is he just didn't grow the hell up.

He asked me "Spenser. what happened to you? You use to be like a Dare-Devil, a real party-man, doing all-nighters and dating numerous gals. Seriously dude what happened to you?"

My reply was simply, " I grew the Hell Up..."

Now he and I just have nothing in common. He emotionally stayed at 16 years of age, and acts the exact same way as he did back in High School.

The fact is as life moves forwards, we all change in some way, and those changes increase more drastically over the decades. Problem is some people end up going down different paths then we do, and those paths are no longer compatible. Think of your friend that was once like you and now works as an assistant to Hillary Clinton. Like I said people change, and not for the better at times.

 

[OrganikRoots]

Nope, it's not fear.
I'm still sorting through some thoughts, but negative on fear.

In my young years I was not a party animal.
My obsession was making $$, first and foremost.
I dove into farming and pharmacy.
Recently retired owning three commercial organic farms, and handing over the baton where I was running a clinical pharmacy program in a 500+ bed hospital.

My friend was also straight and narrow, and with the same type of drive.
In his own field, he too made his money very early on.
He never changed, and neither did I.

I have two rare gold coins that sold, and it was at the coin shop where we crossed paths.
Life is odd.
The coin shop changed owners, and it was him that purchased the shop!
Yep we still have stuff in common.

I will be flying over to collect the $$ and to bring back two other coins I have there.
With the market on the move it's best for me to pull out of sales right now.
Plus if I bring back all my coins, I won't have any reason to visit again?
I'll bring a Yamazaki 12 year old single malt to replace the one we polished off.
Yep, still mulling it over.

BTW - If he was affiliated with clinton I would drop kick his ass ...

 

[Spenser]

BTW - If he was affiliated with clinton I would drop kick his ass ...

Whatttt. You don't like cigars soaked in errr can't say it on this website....

Not a Clinton fan either, though I do like cigars and pipe tobacco.

Ok Roots, then what is your issue, and congrats on your success. Btw why sell gold coins?

I digress, I just had a shot of my homemade Spiced Rum and about to watch an episode of Eureka, so I shall be brief.

I am not sure about you Roots, but personally, i Have lost all my friends, and most of my family, and having the ability to reconnect with like-minded people, especially those that were good friends I would think would be a good thing.

If there are reasons that you are not mentioning for personal reasons that you don't want an entire world to know about, feel free to in website email me a message, on my Word, it will stay between us, but I do suggest to keep your mind open on this, as our pasts and our futures at times collide.

Btw, you may be interested in my hydroponically gardens. I took several horticulture classes and was a farm boy for a stint, yep even milked cows, MOO.

 

[ItsJustMe]

Was reading some posts on a non-prepper-related website the other day, and someone mentioned a book they had read where the author talks about the "seasons" of people's lives. I wish I had written down the title/author. After some thought, it does seem like a person has life seasons. Young, married, children, work, retirement. We probably all have friends like you mentioned. We just went separate ways and now don't really fit into each other's lives. It is fun to talk about the good ole days and reminisce. That takes a few hours. Then we return to our real lives.

 

[bigwheel]

As a person who got diagnosed in 2nd grade of not making friends easy or playing well with others..I aint had many friends over the years and they both died. Actually I love everybody but they dont like me. It dont seem fair. lol.,

 

[AndyFrank]

As a person who got diagnosed in 2nd grade of not making friends easy or playing well with others..I aint had many friends over the years and they both died. Actually I love everybody but they dont like me. It dont seem fair. lol.,

They don't have expiration dates, just deal breakers.
I have had a deal breaker and i dont see regret or a desire to mend it, so i took it as real.

 

[OrganikRoots]

Just an update:
I caught an early flight back from picking up my $$, and also the coins that were not yet sold.
A nice business transaction with a hefty reward!

I had initially planned on staying two nights in town, but pulled the plug and left after only one night.
Once I arrived in town and completed the coin thingy, my friend suggested that later on we have dinner at one of his favorite restaurants. I couldn't pass up a thick juicy bone-in ribeye, especially how he described it. Plus, I was on pretty much an empty stomach. The flight in sucked.

When I arrived at the restaurant, I found him over at the bar.
Our conversation seemed to once again flow as smooth as the whisky.
It was not about days gone by, but from the here and now.
And once again, a kinda good vibe came over me.
Might wanna keep this old friend in the mix I thought.
Then his girlfriend showed up and we grabbed a table to eat.
Holy meadow muffins...

I finished my food and drink as fast as I could without appearing to be in a huff.
I bailed out of the evening.
Then I packed up, and checked out of the hotel.
Grabbed the first flight out, and made it back home in time for breakfast.
Man was I starving.

A final decision has been made.
I'm done with this friend.

 

[rice paddy daddy]

I am an isolationist by choice.
I have one friend of 50+ years, we don’t live near each other.
I have a few friends, guys I can count on, at my American Legion post.
I have two good friends who are stone cold sober card carrying members of Alcoholics Anonymous.

Then, there are my Brothers. Guys in a class by themselves. These I see once a year at our unit reunions, the guys who served in combat with each other.
This is a bond like no other, I’m sure other combat veterans from other wars here share it too.
In 1969-1970 I was willing to die for them, and still am today. The only other people on this earth I will say that about is my wife, my kids, my grandkids.

 

[AndyFrank]

Just an update:
I caught an early flight back from picking up my $$, and also the coins that were not yet sold.
A nice business transaction with a hefty reward!

I had initially planned on staying two nights in town, but pulled the plug and left after only one night.
Once I arrived in town and completed the coin thingy, my friend suggested that later on we have dinner at one of his favorite restaurants. I couldn't pass up a thick juicy bone-in ribeye, especially how he described it. Plus, I was on pretty much an empty stomach. The flight in sucked.

When I arrived at the restaurant, I found him over at the bar.
Our conversation seemed to once again flow as smooth as the whisky.
It was not about days gone by, but from the here and now.
And once again, a kinda good vibe came over me.
Might wanna keep this old friend in the mix I thought.
Then his girlfriend showed up and we grabbed a table to eat.
Holy meadow muffins...

I finished my food and drink as fast as I could without appearing to be in a huff.
I bailed out of the evening.
Then I packed up, and checked out of the hotel.
Grabbed the first flight out, and made it back home in time for breakfast.
Man was I starving.

A final decision has been made.
I'm done with this friend.

So....this girlfriend is why you don't want your friend anymore? and she made you mad or disgusted?

 

[Pir8fan]

Insomnia has me tossing this out.
Wondering on any thoughts.

Recently while attending a business venture, I ran into an old friend that I had not seen for over thirty years. Way back then we were good long time friends that had lots in common and did a lot of things together.
Once I moved out of state we stayed in touch for a while, and even visited each other once or twice.
Then thirty some years roll by with no communication from either side.
We were on good terms, just drifted I suppose.
In short, I forgot about this person.

When we met at this business thingy, we seemed to be on the same vibe as decades past.
We caught up on some topics and planned on meeting once more the next day before I left.
The next day some of the conversation was regarding keeping in touch and to refresh the friendship.
It felt comfortable to me and I thought it would be good to have an old friend back in the fold.

Now...
I'm thinking why?
Why would I want to?
The idea seems kinda unappealing to me now.
Not sure I want to communicate back at all.

Thoughts ???

If friends have expiration dates, were they ever true friends?

 

[OrganikRoots]

So....this girlfriend is why you don't want your friend anymore? and she made you mad or disgusted?

It didn't take too long to figure out that their relationship was a joined at the hip type.
Unbeknownst to me, all the plans to fish, camp, travel, etc., that we had talked about doing
in the future included the girlfriend. Everything.
He went from the friend I knew to suddenly a "yes dear" wuss in her presence.
She ran the conversation without giving anyone else a chance to speak.

Don't want to spend even ONE outing with this couple.
Don't need that in my life..... nope.
I'm glad I brought home the coins because now I have zero reason to ever go back.

A friend a la carte was good and possibly long lasting.
A combination plate couple had me catch a redeye out of town.
Yep.

If friends have expiration dates, were they ever true friends?

Yes, he was a very good friend... I suppose you can say a true friend.
We went through some very good times and some very troubling times back in the day.
Through thick and thin ...

The problem was that Yoko was breaking up the band by controlling every minute of conversation.
I would speak and then she would respond without giving my friend a chance to say anything.
And he was good with that.
I was not.
Didn't want to waste any time having to filter all coversation through the girlfriend.

 

[AndyFrank]

Its just that my friend was a lifetime of awful women. He had to leave me down a hole like an a hole before i got mad.
But, i never had to be around his women either

 

[Maine-Marine]

I have 2 "Friends"... 1 lives in Maine 1 lives in Idaho. With one phone call they would show up with cash, a gun, or a shovel - depending on what was needed... we talk all the time because we care about each other

I have many folks i am friendly with but none like them

 

[OrganikRoots]

Btw why sell gold coins?

I upgraded the collection, so these two coins were sold.
Both are high relief 1907 St Gauden $20 coins.
One flat edge and the other wire edge.

 

[Annie]

Old friends are gold. At least that's been my experience. You might want to consider giving him a chance to reconnect with you. What's there to lose in doing so?

That crazy in love romance faze where his lady could do no wrong? I wouldn't hold it against him. I expect we've all been there at one time or another.

 

[Annie]

As a person who got diagnosed in 2nd grade of not making friends easy or playing well with others..I aint had many friends over the years and they both died. Actually I love everybody but they dont like me. It dont seem fair. lol.,

Your dog loves you.

 

[OrganikRoots]

Old friends are gold. At least that's been my experience. You might want to consider giving him a chance to reconnect with you. What's there to lose in doing so?

Without his other half I would be ok in reconnecting.
Because of the previous coin sales we have a email connection for now.
This was someone who loved deep sea fishing and cat 3 racing as much as I do.
We went to pharmacy school together, and attended each other's wedding.
I was there for him when he lost his wife.

That crazy in love romance faze where his lady could do no wrong? I wouldn't hold it against him. I expect we've all been there at one time or another.

Yep, I suppose you are right.
It's just that the girlfriend rattles my cage from the inside out.
Me, me, me, is all you hear from her.
It's too much.