I can't say that you shouldn't do it. I always have things to spend money on and so does my wife. If we can't afford both it is easier for me to say "NO" to me than it is to say it to her. I have been spending most of our "disposable income" on the two out buildings that I am putting up. and when they are done I will be spending it on her. She is the hardest working woman I have ever seen and my pride in her is nearly sinful but she takes good care of me and I give her what she needs to feel good.