Wives can be a difficult thing, in more ways then one I am sure you aware. Mine was not totally on board with my getting us prepared. She thought it was overkill and a waste of time. But then when hurricane Harvey came through here, she was pretty happy that she had power, food, and water, and didn't have to roll around in the Wally World food isle with some stupid bitch for the last can of okra.
Neither did she have to worry when they started looting shortly after the storm moved off. She doesn't necessarily like to see the guns, but she was happy they were here. When she saw the looting on the news she asked if the gun safe was open. She is not a gun person per say, although she has hunted before and has her own rifle and personal protection pistol. I accommodate her by not leaving guns out in the open. Trust me, they are there, they just can't be seen. The only place she knows she will see guns out in the open is my study where one of my several gun safes resides with my main go to weapons. Otherwise, out of sight, out of mind.
Here is the hard truth of the matter. When it goes sideways, and it will, all your prep's will mean nothing if you don't have the means to protect it. When shit hit's the proverbial fan blade, it will get mean and ugly real fast. You feel safe where you are now, but when it goes bad, bad shit will come looking for you and yours. Shore up your odds, start with a good shotgun and a good high capacity pistol. work from there.